Advice
First, don't become involved in helping your relative witt~ their';rituals' (such as washing or checking), and don't provide reassurance for them. It may be easier for you and them in the short run. Obviously this can be difficult as we all want to help our loved ones. But this is an area where the principle of being cruel to be kind' often applies. The therapist may discuss with you ways of handling this situation. Often the best way is to calmly say "We've agreed that it doesn't help to do this" and then leave the situation.
Second, don't become angry if your relative slips in the programme of treatment. Anger will make them feel bad and this makes the problems worse. Instead, do concentrate on supporting your relative's efforts and praising them when they do well. If they do break the agreement, be firm but calm in reminding them that this will not help in the long term. Try to talk about something else more positive. Though their worries may seem senseless to you, remember the fears are very real to them. Think about something you are afraid of. For example you might have a fear of heights; imagine how you would feel if someone tried to get you to stand on top of a high cliff.
